Rejection Proof | chapter 12: finding power

portrait-of-a-young-man

为爱的人努力。

一位华人的百天被拒之旅，应当以什么样的事件结束呢？


那第一百次rejection是向更有名的人提出邀请，比如摇滚明星，比如总统奥巴马？


还是为所爱的人做他/她喜欢且想要的事情？


人类太多，凡事太琐，名气之类也只是个虚词。不如切切实实地改变某人的生活，如果这个人是挚爱那就更好不过。


Jia Jiang列了个表，问了下网友投票这第一百个该做哪个，但是他想了想，再有名的也没什么实质性意义，不如为某人做点什么。


于是他问了妻子最想在哪里工作，她不假思索地回答说是谷歌。


于是他们定下六个月的时间，一次又一次尝试，找人打电话，列出自己可控的事情清单，忽略不可控的周遭环境。


第四次的正式面试还是失败，但谷歌在上千面试者中也没能找到合适的人。面试官感动于他们的执着，也认为Jia Jiang 爱人Trancy是他们见过最想进谷歌实力也最强的一位，就决定让她参加工作。


谁是最可爱的人？我这时想是Jia Jiang.


能让自己喜欢的人开心，已经是实现理想。


最近看几个微博主发的博文，觉得负面情绪太多戾气太重，虽说成年人的世界，注定是一个不完美、残酷、充满遗憾的世界。但是能为爱的人营造温暖和鼓励的环境，这才是人生的意义吧。


文字可以温暖人心，也可能蛊惑使其冰冷。读那么多大道理，成功学的文字蠢蠢欲动，历史里政治正确和权谋名术，代代不绝。


我承认自己愚笨，那又如何？为爱的人做喜欢的事，今生足矣。


纵拉到宇宙宏观角度，整个人类物种都是毫无意义的，而到个体微观层面，努力挣钱为的是生活舒适。在自愿主义里面，我是不喜欢险恶江湖的，但为了撑起一个家，去做不喜欢的事，并从中找到乐趣和意义。

学三个表达两个句型。

drenching you with their enthusiasm, persuasion, and bags of goodies

本意：浸湿，使湿透；soak, wet thoroughly

比喻：大量覆盖，充满; cover liberally

eg.

I went home and was drenched with my little brother's laghs and happiness.

rejection in sales is a good thing because it weeds out people who don’t need or want my service

名词：杂草

动词：清除杂草，剔除淘汰

eg.

The strongest survives and the weakest was weeded out.

Tracy tried not to be fazed by phone conversations that went badly or e-mails that were never returned.

‍非正式，打扰，使为难

eg.

I am always fazed by my little brother while reading books.

It reinforced that acceptance and rejection depend primarily on the other person’s situation.

这句话和rejection is an opinion 相对应，以后面对拒绝时，默念这句话有奇效。

In fact, Google’s acceptance rate is below 0.5 percent, more than ten times lower than that of Harvard.

第一个than，是more than的than，表示多于，超过

第二个than，是lower than that，比较级的意思，表示比..低

eg.

Actually the house's price is 100000 y/m, more than ten times higher than that five years ago.

回答导读问题。

【1】What lesson did the author learn from his “terrible salesman” experiment?

The first things:

Acceptance and rejection depend primarily on the other person’s situation. 

Sales success is based on the strength of the fit between the customer and what’s being offered purely the strength of the salesperson.

The second thing:

Be detached from the outcome and don't feel the pressure to persuade or please, one could be 100 percent honest and say whatever he wanted and full of confidence. Most important, he could have fun.

【2】What are the benefits of detachment from results?

Become more effective and confident in everything. Became more fearless in the process of venturing into the unknown.

【3】If you also have an opportunity to do a rejection experiment like the author, what requests would you make? Please share your intention behind these requests.

Invite one girl for a dance.

I always feel nervous and do not know what to say when facing girls though in my class there are two times than the amount of our boys. After all I never want to talk such things as stars and clothing and foods. And....practice makes perfect. I'd better to be prepared for my future wife.