CHAPTER 1 reading notes

 No Areinho, Douro António de Carvalho da Silva Porto

1.说明

这是一篇重写的阅读笔记（上一篇在这里不再艹的精妙艺术——第一章阅读笔记），The Subtle Art of  Not Giving A Fuck 第一章内容。我原来是花了一个早上时间读完的，想着后面会连续考试需要抓紧时间复习，不一定能抽多少时间，打算提前做完，但是现在看来

1）我读群规和笔记要求不仔细，没有完全按照要求来

2）并没有很重视阅读背后的东西，不应该只是读一遍就完了，重点应该放在整理和思考上面

2.回答导读问题

【1】What does Charles Bukowski’s success try to prove?

（1）Charles Bukowski, after fifty years' failure as a writer, is atotal loser and has nothing to describe except his bad life styles until an oddeditor, interest in losers, found him and enabled him to write something topublish. "And his success stemmed not from some determination to be awinner, but from the fact that he knew he was a loser, accepted it and thenwrote honestly about it. So Charles Bukowski’s success tries to provethat fame and success didn't make a better personand thatthough self-improvement and success offer occurtogether, it doesn't necessarily mean they're the same thing.

【2】 What’s wrong with the conventional life advice, which is fixating on what you lack? 

（2）Something deep in our society must be wrong.The conventional life advices spread by TV commercial and books and movies andsongs always reinforce the same unconscious reality over and over: that you arenot that, they laser in on what we perceive the personalshortcomings and failures to already be, and then emphasize themfor us. They only serve to remind us over and over again of what we are not, ofwhat we lack, of what we should have been but failed to be. They just careabout good business not your mental health and cause us to become overlyattached to the superficial and fake, to dedicate our life to chasing a mirageof happiness and satisfaction. 

【3】 Can you use your own words explaining what the Feedback Loop from Hell is?

（3）In life when we meet someone is better that us, then we becomeanxious about confronting him or her. This feeling makes us crippled and beginsfiguring out why we have changed in this way. Therefore, we step into the stageof anxious about being anxious. More anxious. Or for the example of anger, sadness,whatever negative moods. The fact that we feel so bad engages us into theFeedback Loop from He, to think cogent thoughts to begin with, to feel badabout feeling bad, to have thoughts about thoughts.

前面三个是昨天早上写的，Eric给的两个建议是

（1）精简，不必要的话太多

（2）检查，错误的拼写和语法

我在word里面检查了，真的一堆，是自己没有核对。暂不精简了，下面两个扼要回答。

【4】 What are the subtleties of not giving a fuck? 

（4）There are three subtleties in this book: 

#1: Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.

#2: To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity.

#3: Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about.

【5】What’s wrong with being “perpetually entitled to be comfortable and happy at all times”? Can you think of an example to support your answer? 

（5）It is a sickness that when you feel everything is supposed to be just exactly the fucking way you want it to be but it is not and then you see every adversity as an injustice, every challenge as a failure and so on.

For example, when A asks B's help, B doesn’t do A a favor.Then A feels very angry and thinks B betrays A. In fact, that is only B'spersonal choice.

3.阅读感悟

I find myself just always giving too many fucks on excessive things. And I did not do as what I have said: only give one hard fuck on one thing. Now I am taking exams and should prepare it at full time but I am doing writhing and still have tons of other things to do as routine. Yes, before I complete those daily. Really I need to reduce issues on my hand.

4.必记词汇

昨天没有在意，只是粗略看了一遍Eric的分享，今天也时间很紧，恩这都是借口，剩下三天每天都考试，考完接着整天做实验，大家都很忙，完成该做的事情。

今天的分享中，我最喜欢的四个词组：

(1) Max out 

My credit cards are maxed out. In fact, I have no credit card. So that won't happen.

(2) Weather

表示经过，渡过，等于 suffer, undergo, go through

A calm weathers all storms.

The country is weathering downturns.

(3) Lame = boring

The exam papers are indeed totally lame.

(4) On its last legs   玩完

The rescue of his legs is on its last legs.

But I still cannot give up any one of them: PPT, English, major. I have already quitted running and flute. Maybe I need have a temporary quitting on the two or just pay more attention to one.