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不要以为是标题党，有时间就读，相信你会认真读下去的。

因为要翻墙，且人人都能用英语上只有前半部分，我也想保存收藏作为笔记，所以就放在这里，希望你也有所收获。

文章很长，但句句精华。

The 2 Mental Shifts Highly SuccessfulPeople Make

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Shift 2: The Power of Context

“Synergy is what happens when one plus oneequals ten or a hundred or even a thousand! It’s the profound result when twoor more respectful human beings determine to go beyond their preconceived ideasto meet a great challenge.” — Stephen R. Covey

In the book, Ego is the Enemy, Ryan Holidayexplains that many successful people “stop being a student.”

When you’re a student, you actively seek tohave your paradigm shattered. You want to be wrong and you want feedback. Youcare more about learning than what other people think about you.

Moreover, once you’ve developed theconfidence and skills to do incredible work via the first shift, you mayrealize you can only get so far by yourself. The “lone ranger” mentality isplayed-out and overrated.

You may be able to rock life by yourself.But you could rock life far more with the help of the right people. Naturally,this is the very ascent Stephen R. Covey explains in The 7 Habits of HighlyEffective People. The first several habits are to help you experience the firstmental shift, or what Covey calls the “Private Victory.”

The habits Covey outlines to experiencethis private victory are:

Be proactive

Begin with the end in mind

Put first things first

Once you master these habits, you will gofrom dependence on others to a high state of independence — the first mentalshift.

However, three additional habits of Covey’sbook are intended to take you beyond independence to a state of interdependence,where you experience synergistic relationships in all areas of your life. WhatI’m calling the second mental shift Covey calls “Public Victory.”

The habits Covey outlines to experiencethis public victory are:

Think win-win

Seek first to understand… then to beunderstood

Synergize

I know several “successful” people who donot demonstrate these three habits. Rather than seeking to understand, theyonly seek to be understood. Rather than synergizing, they only do things “theirway,” seeing others as inferior. They aren’t team-players. They aren’tteachable. They don’t set up relationships that are mutually beneficial.Indeed, they care very little about other people.

It’s been said that the 21st century is thetime of the woman, because naturally, women demonstrate many of thecharacteristics needed to thrive in today’s global and team-driven economy. Onaverage, women are far better team players and collaborators. Men, on the otherhand, are prone to ego and self-absorption. Men more often want the glory whilewomen simply want to contribute and grow.

The following are the core components ofyour mental model after you’ve experienced the second shift:

10x thinking

“When 10x is your measuring stick, youimmediately see how you can bypass what everyone else is doing.” — Dan Sullivan

Becoming “successful” requires takingpersonal responsibility for your life and choices. By nature, it’s beyondaverage, since, to be average is to not take responsibility.

Thinking 10x is much different, though,than simply taking responsibility. It involves a grand vision wherein othersmust also be responsible. Moreover, 10x thinking involves far more boldness andcreativity than simply “being proactive.”

10x thinking takes you from the goal ofearning $100,000 a year to earning $1,000,000. Or, from helping 100 people tohelping 1,000. Or, from getting 10,000 page views to getting 100,000.

When you do this, your strategy immediatelyshifts.

In his book, Tools of Titans, Tim Ferrissexplains that 10x thinking can come from asking “absurd” questions, such as thequestion billionaire Peter Thiel asks himself: If you have a 10-year plan ofhow to get [somewhere], you should ask: Why can’t I do this in 6 months?

Of this type of questioning, Ferrisscontinues:

“For purposes of illustration here, I mightreword [Thiel’s question] to: ‘What might you do to accomplish your 10-yeargoals in the next 6 months, if you had a gun against you head?’ Now, let’spause. Do I expect you to take 10 seconds to ponder this and then magically accomplish10 years’ worth of dreams in the next few months? No, I don’t. But I do expectthat the question will productivity break your mind, like a butterflyshattering a chrysalis to emerge with new capabilities. The ‘normal’ systemsyou have in place, the social rules you’ve forced upon yourself, the standardframeworks — they don’t work when asking a question like this. You are forcedto shed artificial constraints, like shedding a skin, to realize that you hadthe ability to renegotiate your reality all along.”

If you want to think bigger, ask better(and more absurd) questions.

I once asked myself how I could write ablog post that would get one million social shares. The product was a 10,000word list unlike anything I’d ever seen to that point.

These types of questions lead to creativebreakthroughs and different avenues of thought. They also organicallyfacilitate a very different strategic approach.

What absurd question will break you out ofyour limiting and traditional ways of thinking?

Delegate

“Delegate everything but genius.” — DanSullivan

When you begin thinking 10x, you realizeyou can’t do it all on your own. You need to be far more focused.

Thus, it becomes essential to build a teamaround you immediately. Your network is your networth.

The sooner you build a team around you, thefaster, wider, and deeper will be your results. In almost every case, you won’tfeel ready to build this team.

Don’t get caught-up with any preconceivednotions of what “building a team” means. It doesn’t necessarily mean you needto “hire” people in the traditional sense. It could mean that you exchangefavors. Or that you have win-win relationships — such as the one I have with myliterary agent, my editor, and friends who help.

These are mutually beneficial relationshipswherein you focus on your superpower and have those around you who focus ontheirs’.

Collaboration and synergy in all areas oflife

“Alone we can do so little; together we cando so much.” — Helen Keller

Take a minute to examine your life.

When you go to the gym, do you have aworkout partner? Surveys show that most people prefer working out alone.However, if you’ve experienced the growth available by pushing yourself withsomeone else, the idea of working out alone seems somewhat comical.

As Michael Jordan explains, “Talent winsgames, but teamwork and intelligence wins championships.”

In a Darwinian sense, most people competewith others on their own level. Those seeking rapid growth compete with otherswho are far advanced, what Josh Waitzkin calls “investing in failure.” An evenhigher order principle is collaborating with others who are far advanced ofyour current level.

For instance, if you want to get strongeror faster really fast, exercise with people in far better shape. If you want todo incredible work, work with more talented people than you. If you want tobecome a better person, date or marry someone “up.”

Of course, if it is a true collaboration,you’ll need to bring much to the table yourself. This isn’t about socialloafing. It’s about intensive growth, and must therefore, be both win-win andsynergistic.

As Andrew Carnegie, among the richestAmericans of all time, has explained, “Teamwork appears most effective if eachindividual helps others to succeed, increasing the synergy of that team;ideally, every person will contribute different skills to increase theefficiency of the team and develop its unity.” Another billionaire, RichardBranson, similarly stated, “Build your own business team. Survival in businessrequires a synergy of skills.”

In everything you do, there should becollaborative and synergistic elements. Of course, there is work which is yourwork. However, that work should be embedded within a group of others and towardsomething much bigger.

Again, a huge difference from the firstshift to the second is that you are responsible for more than just yourself.Because others depend on you to show up and do what you do best, you areresponsible to your team.

These others could be customers, fans,family, a workout partner. Whatever. The point is, you are responsible forother people’s success. Moreover, in many ways, their success is your success.Their growth and development is just as satisfying as your own — sometimesmore.

Rest and recovery

“Working with a 10x goal and game-planrequires that your brain is relaxed, rested, and rejuvenated.” — Dan Sullivan

Deep, creative, and strategic thinking andwork is exhausting. An essential component of the second shift is doing “less,but better.” Where the first shift is often about quantity of work, the secondshift is all about quality.

To experience the first shift, you oftenjust need to throw a bunch of darts at a board. Simply throwing a dart is seenas a huge win, initially. Eventually, some of those darts start hitting theboard and getting some attention. However, once you make the second shift, youare among the world-class. It’s not just about hitting the board. It’s abouthitting the bulls-eye, consistently.

Precision.

Quality.

Conservation, rest, and recovery, then,becoming increasingly essential. This is true at all elite levels. For example,professional athletes spend an enormous time resting. Roger Federer and LeBronJames have said they sleep an average of 12 hours per day.

Similarly, to build mass and strength, manypeople need to workout less, and give their body more time for recovery andsleep. Yet, during their workouts, they need to push themselves harder andheavier. Less, but better. The same is true of mental and strategic work.

Recovery is more than just physicallyresting. It’s also being completely unplugged from “connection.” For instance,a recent study found that constant smartphone use stops people from properlyrecovering from work (and life). In a sense, people are always “on” todistraction and connection. They never disconnect. People keep theirsmartphones on them constantly.

In the study, the experimental group, whobecame more conscious of their smartphone use, and took adequate breaks fromit, were able to experience psychological detachment from work (which isessential for recovery and engagement), relaxation, and mastery.

Take away: Set healthy boundaries on yoursmartphone and internet use. When possible, keep your smartphone away from yourperson. If it’s in physical proximity, you will unconsciously use it. Keep itin your car when you get home from work. Or keep it in a drawer in a separateroom. Allow yourself to actually rest and recovery so you can engage in lifeand work! This is absolutely essential if you want to truly make the second shift.

Conclusion

These mental shifts are incredible.

Wherever you are on your own journey, youcan intensify and deepen your understanding of the principles at these variouslevels.

Never stop being a student. Never stoplearning.

Shatter whatever paradigm you have and geta new one. When you change the way you see things, the things you see change.

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